I challenged myself the other month. I purchased a Stand-up Paddle Board (SUP). I had watched people on them for some time. The first time I saw one was at a surf beach. They were quite new in the country at that time. They looked a little tricky to manage in the surf, but the rider seemed to handle the conditions OK.
The next time I saw one was at a inner harbour beach. And then I started seeing them more and more….And then some friends from the US brought some. They spent a lot of time on them and recounted the fun they were.
So the seed of an idea was planted in my mind. My daughter also expressed interest in using one after a go on one while she was on holiday.
I kept putting off buying one as I didn’t want to look a fool as I learnt how to ride one.
Then one day, I said ‘damn it’ to myself and put my fear aside and purchased one.
I chose a spot at the far end of a local beach to have my first attempt at riding the board. Again – I didn’t want to make a fool of myself. Lesson one was learnt very quickly – don’t try to hop onto the board standing up. The board went one way and me the other!!
Hmmmm. Good move to be as far away from other people as possible! From there things progressed. Start off on knees then stand up. I had a couple of trips into the water as I learnt to get my balance. Note here that I am learning at a inner harbour beach without surf!!
Since that first excursion, I have slowly challenged myself to paddle further out from shore and greater distances.
So, what is the point of this story…and what has it got to do with Self Hypnosis?
You see it is about our limitations and what we allow to hold us back from doing things we want to do. Limitations about what other people will think about us, about will I be any good? Can I even do this? You can think of a few yourselves. We stop ourselves from going out there and having fun just because we think…..and fears. Baseless fears.
Overcoming our fears is our biggest challenge. I am now enjoying my SUP as I have put aside my thoughts of looking a fool. Our programming of limitations. Of the ‘I can’ts’. ‘It’ll be too hard’. ‘I’m too old’. The list goes on.
The challenge we face is not focusing on the negatives, but rather focusing on the positives. Focusing on the pleasure and joy we will get out of doing that something we have thought about. It’s about holding on to those positive thoughts and energy even as we go through the process of learning a new skill or habit.
For me, I now have a smile on my face as I paddle my way across the bay on my SUP. I launch it in the middle of the beach and don’t care what people will think if I fall off or look like I don’t know what I am doing.
I am out there doing it because I have focused on the positives, not the negatives.
until next time