Have you ever watched a child learning to walk, or trying to master a task? Where is their focus? On their destination – either a defined target (walking) or task. No matter how many times they may fall down, or not succeed in mastering the task, they still carry on to reach their goal. Many times with a big smile on their face. The child keeps going until they succeed. There is no thought of failure. Only the goal.
What happens to us as we get older? We stop trying at the first or second obstacle. We have hypnotised ourselves to stop trying if we don’t succeed right away. We have lost that child’s joy of just moving toward a goal without thinking. Of focusing on the goal, not the obstacles.
A good example of this is skiing through trees.
This is like a story I was told some years ago about skiing downhill through trees. The technique is to focus on the gaps between the trees. One can imagine what would happen if one focus’ on the tree! Yes you will hit it!
We are like the skier that focus’ on the trees and wonders why they can’t reach the bottom of the slope! The trees or obstacles are all that they see.
We need to learn to focus on the gaps for a clear run to the bottom – our goal.
How do we do this? By hypnotizing ourselves to focus on the goal, not the obstacles.
We have learnt to measure success, not on achieving our goal, but rather against some hidden clock. If we don’t achieve our goal by a certain time (which we either consciously or unconsciously set) then we stop or give up…
We need to learn to hypnotise ourselves to be more like our child state or focusing on the goal and not the obstacles.