Here’s a question for you. When you look at yourself (either in a mirror or just looking down), what do you see and what do you hear yourself saying in your mind?
What is your mind chatter? Is it negative or positive?
OK, now imagine you have a goal to lose weight, say 10lbs (4.5kg) and maybe flatten your abs/stomach. OK now look at yourself again. What is the mind chatter? Now imagine it is three weeks in the future. Imagine yourself looking down at yourself again. What is the mind chatter this time? How do you feel?
I bet that the mind chatter in the future was pretty much the same as it was in the present.
So what’s my point? Quite simply that the image that we hold of ourselves in our minds will override any desired change that we want to make – unless we change the image of ourselves.
What do I mean by this? In the above example we said we wanted to lose 10lbs. Typically what we’d do is go on a diet and exercise and look in the mirror each day and not really see a difference. So in a few weeks we give up and say – that didn’t work.
But what would happen if you built a picture in your mind of you 10lbs lighter? How would that picture look? How would you look? What clothes would you be wearing? What would you be doing, eating, feeling? What would your family and friends be saying about you?
Now what do you think would happen if you imagined that new you every morning before getting up, as you looked at yourself in a mirror and before you went to bed at night? Of course you will have changed your diet and be doing some exercise.
And you kept up the program of imaging and diet and exercise. Do you think it would be easier to lose those lbs? Yes it will be. Why?
Because you have changed the mental image that you hold of yourself. Without changing that mental image, you will continue to see the old you and those 10lbs will more than likely stay on or your weight will fluctuate up and down.
The same is true about any change. If you don’t change the mental image you hold of yourself to reflect the new you, you will find it hard to make the change stick.
until next time